Building a Social Network or Friendly Relationships as a Nigerian in the Diaspora

Relocating to a new country as a Nigerian is a life-changing experience filled with hope, ambition, and the pursuit of better opportunities. Whether you're moving for studies, work, or a fresh start, there’s always that initial thrill of arriving in a new place, new weather, new systems, new culture, and new people. But once the excitement settles, the reality of distance and disconnection can set in.

You start to miss the warmth of your street in Lagos, the spontaneous gist with neighbors in Port Harcourt, or the weekend owambes that once filled your calendar. Suddenly, everything feels foreign, and one of the biggest hurdles becomes painfully clear: how do you build a new support system when you don’t know anyone?

For many Nigerians in the diaspora, loneliness isn’t just emotional—it can also affect productivity, mental health, and even your sense of identity. That’s why building a social network abroad is more than just making friends; it’s about creating a new version of community, one that makes you feel seen, heard, and supported.

Thankfully, there are practical and culturally relevant ways to build meaningful relationships, no matter where you are in the world.

Connect with Nigerian Communities and Associations

One of the best ways to find familiar faces and shared experiences is by joining Nigerian associations in your city. These groups often serve as lifelines organizing meet-ups, cultural events, and providing information that helps you settle in faster. Whether it's a group for Nigerian students, professionals, or families, you're likely to find people who understand where you're coming from and what you're going through.

Get Involved in Faith-Based Groups

For many Nigerians, spirituality is a big part of life and abroad, churches, mosques, and fellowships often double as social centers. Attending a Nigerian church or mosque in your new city not only grounds you spiritually but also connects you with people who share your values and background. Friendships formed here often extend beyond Sundays, creating a sense of family away from home.

Leverage Social Media and Apps

In the digital age, your next friend might just be a DM away. Platforms like Facebook, WhatsApp, Telegram, and Meetup are full of groups like “Nigerians in Berlin” or “African Professionals in Toronto.” These online communities offer advice, announce hangouts, and sometimes even host virtual game nights or webinars. Don’t hesitate to engage, it’s a modern way to meet people before even stepping outside your door.

Attend Cultural Events and Volunteer

Keep an eye out for events that celebrate African or Nigerian culture, food fairs, fashion shows, film screenings, and even Afrobeat concerts. These events attract people who love the culture and are often great places to meet kindred spirits. Volunteering is another underrated way to make connections; it puts you in contact with others who are generous with their time and open-hearted.

Be Open, Authentic, and Patient

Real friendships take time to grow. It’s important to be patient and genuine. Whether you’re bonding over shared love for suya or simply trying to find your tribe, stay open to different kinds of people—including those from other cultures. Your kindness, humility, and resilience as a Nigerian can go a long way in forming strong, lasting connections.

Adjusting to life in the diaspora comes with highs and lows, but having a strong social network can make the journey smoother. Don’t wait for friendships to find you, go out, show up, and connect. Home isn’t just a place it’s people. And no matter where you are in the world, with the right relationships, you can always create a little piece of Nigeria around you.